Who trains the Masters?

What happens now: anarchy and mistrust

For a slave looking for a Master the Master has to be right. There has to be the correct chemistry. But, when it comes to practicalities, what does the Master actually know? How does He know it? Is it all based on experience, what can be taught and where? For a slave with real ambition to be owned, to serve, the primary aim should be to do so safely.

You hear lots of horror stories: guys bound and then having horrible things done to them, injuries both mental and physical. The list of Masters that should be blacklisted for leaving a stream of broken and shell-shocked bois in their wake is huge. But there is no real place to go to find out who is a nutter and who is safe and skilled. Anyone can set themselves up as a Master, and there are more than enough desperate bois around to take the risk of not even looking for references.

Clues for bois:

• Do not meet for sex the first time. Meet on neutral ground for a coffee.
• When you do meet for sex always make sure you tell someone where you are going and arrange to call them: a good Master will understand.
• Make sure he offers you a safe word to make sure you have a safety valve if needed.

These are basic, but probably necessary. But how should a lad who wants to be a proper Master: sane, safe and secure, gain knowledge? What are the options?

Today’s option

Well, the best a boy could do is hook up with another Master and do a couple of sessions with a slave or two. He can pick the experienced Master’s brain, be shown how to do a few things and generally pick up some experience. If he works out the more experienced Master can then act as a useful reference for him in solo sessions with other slaves. This is done fairly often, but training can be patchy dependent upon what the experienced Master actually has experience of.

In London there is, of course, SM Gays nights at The Hoist. Now despite the fact that they are in bad odour with me at the moment, I think in general what they do is a pretty good idea. Admittedly they only do ‘practical’ rather than ‘psycho-sexual’, but the practical stuff is generally what can go badly wrong.

A bit of ‘Me’ time

Hands up, I am self-taught. I tied my first boi up when I was at University and generally never looked back. It was, and still is, a learning process: when I stop learning I will be in a wooden box. I did a lot of reading, tried out a lot of things on equally inexperienced bois and made a lot of mistakes along the way. I am thankfully, a naturally dominant person, and place more emphasis on control than the physical, but that means that there are still gaps in my knowledge: rope bondage is only vaguely known to me and I must have forgotten a bit. CBT frankly scares me as I am conscious of doing something that may involve permanent damage, and these are only two examples.

The Old Guard approach…

The Old Guard approach, as written down and remembered by some (though not all) is that the structure was generally based on a Household system. Any guy joining, no matter whether he aspired to be a Master or a slave would start out as a slave. The theory, supposedly, was that he would become familiar with the way a Household operated. At some stage a Household’s senior members would decide whether to elevate a budding Master to the ranks of the Masters in the Household. So from slave, to Alpha (possibly) to Master was a ‘career route’ and I know of at least one guy who went through that process

My problem…and ideal solution

I have a problem with this approach, namely I do not think I could have handled ever being a slave. I am far too unruly, independently minded and just plain stubborn. I certainly would find it very difficult to serve people. It is also the case that, certainly in the UK, such a system to my knowledge simply does not exist. Even if it did I would prefer something borrowed from the military: a cadet system. As you have trainee slaves (I hope) then there seems no reason to me why you should not have trainee Masters. I would call them cadets, a suitable military-sounding term. Pair them up with a Master and experienced slaves under that aegis and you have the beginnings of an effective approach. Will it ever happen? Well, I would like to make it happen in the future but, well, right now? I am far too busy...

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