The Other Stuff

Vanilla? No thanks…

In my description I said that I am not only interested in the Master/Slave scene. This is very true. For a start I have a nice, cosy vanilla relationship with my partner Dror. We have been together over 3 years and have a pretty healthy sex life and fun relationship. The fact that, after 3 or more years I still find him as sexually exciting as I did when I first met him is a good sign. But I like other things too, so rather than have some unwilling or disinterested participant (Dror) I play outside the relationship. This is with his full knowledge. Only if things ever became an emotional threat to the relationship would he get anxious, and I am determined not to let that happen. So, what else am I into, besides him (regularly) ans the Master/Slave scene?

My heart belongs to Daddy

Well, I am a natural Daddy. In fact it comes to me in a scarily natural way. Of course I have other interests: ethnic guys, skins, scallies and even a bit of muscle (though not too much) turn me on, but the whole Daddy/Son thing is the only scene close to rivalling Master/Slave for my interest.

There are some clear similarities: it is a dominant/submissive power relationship, with some CP and some control, but the authority of the Daddy often stems from age and experience rather than natural dominance or force of personality. Of course it is sometimes the case that Sons are older than Daddies, CP may figure in ways more than the occasional spanking, there are many routes to this scene, as there are to Master/Slave. I guess the difference is the ability to show affection. For me there is no place for affection in a Master/Slave scene (although it can happen, and can be good and bad), but in a Daddy/Son scene it is obligatory.

Now, quite recently, I was talking to one lad in the flat about his desires and ambitions in life and he said to me after a while: “You are getting off on this, aren’t you?”. The answer, of course, was yes. The paternalistic way (some would say patronising) that I guided him through his fears, thoughts and desires was great fun to me. That is why, although I generally steer clear of cyber, I will on occasion cyber Daddy/Son: but only with the right boy.

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