Online Activity

Can this be cybered?

I am always loath to just say an immediate ‘no’ to anything. My instinct with this is to ‘just say no’ as the boys and girls from Grange Hill would have it. Cybersex in general is a bit of a curate’s egg and something I very rarely indulge in, and then only on the Daddy/son side of things. I have never really thought that typing ‘ooh, I’ve cum’ was really a good substitute for the smells, sounds and visuals that real life sex creates.

But this scene may provide certain advantages as far as cyber is concerned, particularly with regard to control. The most obvious manifestation of this is the ‘cyber-Master’ or ‘cyber-slave’ running things through a cam. This sounds ok as far as it goes but there are certain limits to what one individual can do for themselves, even if they find being ordered around by a voice some hundreds or thousands of miles away very erotic. Equally the Master may find this attractive, neither has to face the prospect of a meet. Cyber through a cam, or even just typing, can be a good introduction to other people online and how they work, but ultimately it seems very sterile.

Out of sight but still in mind?

When the cam is off, or the person is not online, then it really does become a matter of trust. If a Master instructs his slave to do, say, an extra 50 push ups or eat a tin of spam or something and it is not cammed, then you only have their word for it that it has happened. You can limit orders and instructions to cammed sessions, of course, but that implies a lack of trust or commitment. But maybe I think like this because I am naturally hostile to online training. I have never, ever understood guys who do not want to take cyber further, into the world of sweat and smells.

The most successful cyber-relationships to my mind are by those that have already met and distance has forced them to adopt this method. This can be accompanied by visits of a regular or irregular basis. I have met guys in this sort of relationship and, although they are not 100% happy as they would prefer to be with their partner for real more regularly, it works for them.

Cyber and me

I do use cyber to start training. Basic etiquette and an understanding of what is necessary can be done online. But the rest: CP, bondage, any form of sexual contact and even the psychological messages that can be transmitted just through a glance or body language are not possible. The exertion of control, at least the way I do it, is simply impossible. For example I tend to use cyber to keep a track on bois but punishments, rewards, sessions, are never cyber. I like sweat and smells, sights and sounds, too much and my tactile nature means I cannot accept cyber even as a substitute for reality.

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