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My opinion of Pain

Pain seems to be considered axiomatic with the Master & slave scene. Indeed for those outside the scene it often looks like that is all the scene consists of. As one lad said to me: “that’s a very brutal scene isn’t it?” Well, here is a little secret: I do not like inflicting pain.

For a start I am not a sadist. Many, if not most, self-styled Masters are. Indeed that is often all they are, but describing yourself as a Master sounds far better than admitting that you are a sadist. Equally many slaves are masochisists, again often exclusively so. You see them on Gaydar, saying that they need to be ‘punished’. When asked what for the response is as if you asked for moon rock.

Which leads on to the second reason: punishment. Now I tend to differentiate between pain from sources such as TT and CBT (slow, persistent and controlled) and CP. The former I will happily do as part of trying different combinations of activities on bois. But flogging, spanking, lashing and so on I tend to reserve for punishments. Now as punishments are not meant to be enjoyable, logically, I have no real interest in bois who are masochists or ‘like pain’.

Punishments

I do like dishing out punishments. This is different from dishing out pain. When it comes to CP I am really turned on by a submission of a boi to the pain, being thanked for each stroke, the grovelling and begging involved trying to reduce the punishment or avoid it altogether. It is the actual inflicting bit that does nothing for me. It is also, in my opinion, a bit too much of an easy way out for a Master to reach for the lash, so I limit myself to 20 strokes in one session, and one session every 24 hours as a rule. This forces you to be inventive about looking for other methods, such as ignoring a boi, making him eat something he dislikes, sitting on an uncomfortable toy for a certain amount of time and so on. I am not averse to inflicting CP, but do not expect the boi to enjoy it, and I certainly would not be interested in doing it gratuitously.

Questions from bois

You often get questions or statements from bois, such as:

1) “I don’t like Pain”

Good. I do not want you to actually like it! Ideally you would be willing to submit to it as part of a punishment regime, light, moderate or heavy. Often it is a progression with bois starting light and gradually being able to take more. Besides, it would not do for a boi to get used to the pain.

2) “Please punish me, I have been bad”

OK. What have you done? Besides, punishments are not all about CP. If a boi has been bad it is up to a Master to keep a varied set of punishment options so the boi does not know what he is going to get. If you just want CP then say so.

3) “I love being fucked after being punished”

Fine. You might like it but you are not guaranteed to get it.

4) “I do not want any pain, will this stop me being a slave?”

Not at all: S&M is not Master & slave. If you make pain a limit then a Master will decide whether to take you on, as he may regard pain as central to what he does. I do not, although submission to it is welcome, and I have a few bois on a regular/irregular basis who have ‘no pain’ as a limit.

Pain is a complex thing, and it is something that, again, highlights that all bois are different. I get strange reactions from Masters when I say that I do not like inflicting pain, as if I just landed from another planet, but it is true. I enjoy the act of submission, the efforts bois make to avoid it and being thanked for the lesson afterwards: but not the pain bit. It is also why I am not interested in bois who ‘enjoy’ CP. CP to me is always a punishment, and how can you punish a boi by doing something he enjoys?

M