An open letter

In response to my last entry this was posted by Avis.

‘Avis said...
Listen mate...
Really don't understand why you're such a nasty-judgemental jerk?
I don't think we were ever introduced to each other personally so it's amazing how shallow you must be to make this kind of comments.
First of all my "deal" with Master is non of business and secondly he is a great guy, very carrying and by contraries to you he is just a nice person so maybe instead of bitching around like a stupid queen mind your own business and piss off.
Probably you will delete this message anyway.
"Avis" ‘


A response

Well, I have decided not to delete this message, rather confront it head-on. I would certainly not dream of deleting it as a journalist I sort of believe in freedom of speech It is also nice to know that my blog is both being read and having an impact!

So let’s start with some of the criticisms from Avis.

For a start Avis says this was not a business arrangement, and that he was not hired by the great guy in question. Unfortunately, and yes in my “judgement”, this actually makes things worse. The reason being that, if there was no commercial arrangement there is even less excuse for your Master to indulge in poor discipline. If you truly are his boi then he has done an appalling job in training you and showing you how to behave as a boi in a social environment.

This is, I hasten to add, not your fault. In the end there is no such thing as a bad boi, only a bad Master, and your training, demeanour and general behaviour is His responsibility. In short if you were not there as rent, His training and disciplining of you was sorely lacking, so much so that the opinion of people as well as me were ‘he’s rent’.

As for the more personal stuff, well, it is hardly worth considering. I have no expectations of making any personal comments about you, indeed I could not: we have, as you rightly intimate, never spoken. The one comment I will make is that I am being ‘judgemental’. Of course I am, in fact everyone is judgemental about appearance, personality, temperament: everything. The difference is I am prepared to do it on here and lay myself open to criticism.

The real deal

My substantive criticisms are not of you, but of the ‘great guy’. I am afraid I am not willing to believe that you were not rent, and the following still apply:

1) That going into the Master&slave room on Gaydar and claiming bois as your own when you have hired them is both untruthful and tragic.

2) Honesty is always the best policy.

Taking pretty bois on a chain to the Hoist to bolster a flagging ego is not particularly pleasant. Telling untruths about it is even less appealing. Getting bois, training them, putting in work, seeing the results of both your efforts is far more rewarding. So seeing bois by virtue of who you are, not by virtue of the contents of your wallet, is a far better route to respect and happiness.

Anyway: if you want to discuss this further please feel free to do so next time you see me at The Hoist. As Bob Hoskins famously said: “It’s good to talk”

M