First steps

To begin with a little background.

My name is John and I have been in retirement from the scene, for want of a better word, for 4 years. I have never been in a 24/7 relationship, and have never wanted one. Personally I know that I am incapable of sustaining such an emotionally demanding role beyond 24 hours, or possibly a weekend, with boi or bois. The reasons are numerous but not really pertinent to the debate in hand, the only comment that needs to be made at this point is that the more inexperienced and often demanding the slave is, the more mental pressure a master faces to keep them ‘amused’. In consequence it is not really attractive for me to face such a situation. Guys often approach you asking you to ‘do things’ to them, but only the things they like, and this is, in my rather old-fashioned view, hopelessly wrong.

This has meant that I was considered a very ‘picky’ individual, did not show any interest in 24/7 requests and was interested in other scenes as well: I had no expectation of buying a sling and decorating a room with stone-effect wallpaper. Also it was something I could survive without, and have done for 4 years. I was disappointed by the lack of serious commitment on the part of slaves who seemed to act in ways akin to other passives: lie back and think of England and enjoy themselves whilst I did all the work. This was not what I wanted.

Slavery is, and should be, enjoyable in itself. The slaves sole fount of enjoyment should be to provide pleasure to their Master. Once a collar is accepted obedience should be unquestioning. In return the Master accepts the responsibility that ownership brings: the slave is your property and should be looked after in the same way. In fact responsibility should, forms of English aside, start with a capital R, so important is the concept in my world.

The other important concept is that of power. Power is a relationship, as any student of international affairs will tell you, and its exercise can be subtle as well as brutal. The slave accepts their power over you, with the possibility of bratting to act as a test on your ability to enforce it, as without their willing acceptance of their place in the world your role as a master is meaningless. If you have any doubt about this, read Uncle Tom’s cabin.

Armed with these two basic concepts my approach to the scene has generally been a combination of horror, disappointment and amusement. Pretention has no place in my world but it seems to be rife in the UK scene: lots of people milling about in an atomised manner lacking awareness or having vague ideas bout some dominant guy taking control over them to do things they enjoy. There seems to be no real understanding of Responsibility by many self-styled Masters or no appreciation of the concept of power. In the shape of the-boi I have discovered at least one person who has thought deeply about the lifestyle and has come to conclusions with which I am in broad agreement. Or first outing to the Hoist, after chatting and beginning to understand our approaches, was as refreshing as it was enjoyable. It has reconfirmed my enjoyment of this scene but only if the circumstances are right. In consequence I am coming out of self-imposed exile to see if there is any hope of developing my ideas and interests whilst having fun on the way.

J