Does age tell?

The ageist scene

This is a scene that is definitely ageist, and I am as guilty as the rest. From my perspective I do have an age limit: 40, but it is not fixed in stone. But, I confess, I do have trouble dealing with slaves that are considerably older than me. That said I also have an issue with bois that are very young. Although I am happy to have bois under 25 they are often less broad minded and often do not know what they really want: 25 to 35 is my ideal range.

Nontheless there are exceptions to prove the rule, both under 25’s who are sorted and know what they want, and guys over 40 who I am comfortable with despite my childhood upbringing of ‘respect your elders’. But, more unusually, it works more harshly both ways than I have seen in other scenes.

The older slave

There are a lot of older bois on the scene. Some have been slaves since Noah was a boy and have a vast fund of experience. This, in itself, can be quite daunting for a Master of whatever age as the feeling of always being measured against things in the past is always in your mind. Of course the older slave is often happy enough to be played with in whatever fashion. Then there are the older slaves who have ‘just gotten into it’. Often they have suppressed a whole raft of feelings for many years: either because of personal shame or fears or because they had a partner who they were convinced would ‘not understand’. Then, released from one lot of bondage they want to try another. It is this group that I feel most sorry for because it can be hard for them to explore themselves properly because Masters, even those in their 50’s and older, generally want younger bois. Though some Masters are more enlightened, others just want to have pretty bois.

The younger Master

But for the younger Master, under 30, the boot is often on the other foot. I know I struggled greatly before I reached 30, and I was speaking to a younger Master yesterday in Comptons who is 30 this year and cannot wait. He feels that his age is an obstacle because most bois, even those in their 20’s want a Master that is older: unless they are just massaging their libido of course. Now I am back in the scene, and 35 this year, I have noticed a change in that regard: more interest, although not necessarily from the right quarters. So he may be right, the expectation being that, by this age, I should have gained enough experience not to make a pigs breakfast of things and know a thing or two. Still, that said, I know I still have a lot to learn: electrical is still a closed book to me, and cbt is another dark region yet to be explored. I will probably stop learning when I am dead.

M